This is just about doin' it.

I'm watching 7 Days of Sex & it has really got me thinking. It's a show on Lifetime that encourages couples who are having problems or who are in a rut to have sex for seven days in a row & usually after those seven days the relationship is a lot better. That's not surprising though, because sex really is such an important part of a relationship, although a lot of people will deny that. It has me thinking about trying it with Justin & myself. 

I wouldn't say our sex life is suffering, we have sex around three times a week. Anyone with children or anyone with a partner who has a very strenuous work schedule will tell you simply finding time for the deed is difficult. That's our problem, it's not that we don't want to get together every day, it's just that it's hard to find the time with our schedules. Justin works nights so he sleeps during the day & usually when we are both awake at the same time we are enjoying time as a family, with Stella. Because of all of those obstacles, we can only escape at certain, strange times, just whenever our lives will allow it. Now, I have a very strong sex drive & frankly, three times a week is nothing to me. When Justin & I first got together, we would have sex multiple times throughout the day & surprisingly that same behavior carried on until I had Stella. Even when I was nine plus months pregnant we were getting it on all day long. Of course, since Stella has been born & Justin has been working the night shift, that's simply not possible anymore. I miss it, I do. Don't get me wrong, whenever we do end up doing the deed it's always amazing. I genuinely mean that it's amazing, more often than not I cry because it's so intensely amazing. Justin is a very in tune lover, his entire idea of being fantastic in that sense is listening to the woman. He listens to every suggestion, every wish, want or desire. He listens to every noise during the actual action. He says he's not pleased unless I am completely satisfied, which makes me feel so incredibly lucky because I know plenty of guys who think they may be like that but they're not, or guys who simply aren't like that at all. He'll ask questions or he'll ask me to show him something, he is just the best. Naturally, I behave the same, it's only fair that we are both extremely pleased. I will admit though, I think he's a little better at it.

Justin hasn't been with a lot of women, actually. He didn't even become sexually active until he was much older & has only been with two people other than me. With the other girls the sex wasn't even frequently. He's the abnormal. I think I'm quite average in the sense that I became sexually active in high school & I've had a couple of partners throughout the years. Either way though, Justin & I have experienced so many firsts together. He's the only guy I have ever been with who is even close to the same level of sexual curiosity or perverseness that I am, which is honestly saying a lot. I could scare a lot of people away. It's the same on his end, I'm the only girl that he's been intimate with that is really comfortable doing & trying a lot of things. With that being said, we have experienced a lot together, which is really such an extremely intimate thing & makes our bond even tighter.

Our sex varies as well. The locations & positions are a constant change, but just the type of sex changes too. Sometimes it's quick & effortless, other times it will last for an hour & our bodies ache & we're drenched in sweat. Sometimes it's very slow & sweet, other times slow & full of fiery passion. There have been plenty of occasions where it has been so much fun & full of surprises & other times when it's just funny & awkward, but we are so comfortable around each other that even those types of sessions are okay.

As you may be able to tell, the passion is there & the satisfaction is there. It's just not happening as much as I would like. I've decided that starting Saturday, we will have sex for seven days straight. I'm not going to ambush him & say, "I'M GETTING SOME ACTION EVERY DAY THIS WEEK OR ELSE." No, I plan on informing him of the plan so we can work at it together. Because seriously, it wouldn't be that much fun if I were the only one doing the pursuing. I do plan to have fun with it though & do things that are on the romantic & sexy side. Maybe candles, a bubble bath, a massage, a sexy outfit? Who knows. Or, maybe some days it will be quick & fun. Either way, I'm really looking forward to this & who knows what kind of effect it will have on our relationship.